Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

Friday, December 5, 2008

Preterm birth

Preterm birth is the leading cause of neonatal death in multiples. Although the mere fact that you are carrying multiples puts you at increased risk of experiencing a pre-term birth, there are other factors that add to your risk. You’re at increased risk if

■ you have had abdominal surgery during the current pregnancy (for example, an appendectomy);

■ you have an abnormal uterine structure;

■ you have fibroids (benign uterine tumors);

■ you are experiencing emotional or physical stress;

■ you have high blood pressure;

■ you develop a high fever during pregnancy;

■ you have a kidney infection;

■ you are outside of the optimal age range (that is, if you are under 16 or over 35);

■ you are a DES daughter (your mother took diethylstilbestrol — DES — when she was pregnant with you);

■ you have been diagnosed with placenta pre-via;

■ you have been diagnosed with poly hydramnios;

■ you haven’t gained enough weight;

■ you have previously experienced premature labor or delivery;

■ you have been experiencing unexplained vaginal bleeding;

■ you are a smoker.

Although cerclage (a surgical procedure in which the cervix is stitched shut to prevent it from dilating prematurely) was once considered to be an effective means of preventing premature labor, most doctors no longer agree with its routine use in women carrying multiples. These days, cerclage is performed only on women with weak cervixes — a condition that the medical profession charmingly refers to as cervical incompetence. (As you probably realize, this is just a less-than-diplomatic way of saying that the cervix is unable to withstand the weight of the developing fetus, or fetuses, and opens prematurely.)

Source : The Unofficial Guide to Having a Baby. Second Edition . Ann Douglas and John R. Sussman, M.D. 2004

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

What Is a Real Mom?

Hey, Mom: Are you real? Is what you’re doing as a mother going to “last for always”?

Sure, that may sound like a silly question, but the answer is going to tell you a lot about just how effective you are as a mother, how influential you will be on your children’s lives, and whether they will grow up to be happy adults with character and confidence. It will also make a big difference in just how happy your family is now, today, every day.

What does a real mom look like?

  • A real mom doesn’t worry about what other moms are doing or saying.
  • A real mom knows her children so well that she makes her parenting decisions based on their unique needs.
  • A real mom is clear about her personal values and code of behavior, and sticks to them.
  • A real mom knows what’s important for her family and keeps those priorities straight.
  • A real mom has confidence in her maternal instinct and isn’t pushed around by the latest pressures and trends.
  • A real mom knows that what matters most is a close connection with her children so that her influence lasts for always.

And what does a real mom do?

Above all, she stays true to herself and connected to her kids, and she doesn’t deviate from what she knows is best for her family.

  • Real moms have a life of their own.
  • Real moms break the rules for their family.
  • Real moms let their kids wear the same clothes two days in a row.
  • Real moms go on a date with their husbands and aren’t afraid to miss the PTA meeting.
  • Real moms give their kids pots and pans to play with.
  • Real moms leave their food on the tray and head for the parking lot when their kid has a meltdown at McDonalds.
  • Real moms make their kids do their own homework.
  • Real moms aren’t afraid to say no.
  • Real moms give themselves time-outs.
  • Real moms tell their kids they don’t have to play Beethoven’s “Für Elise” at the family reunion.
  • Real moms know it’s not personal when their kids say, “You’re the meanest mother in the whole world.”
  • Real moms say “Good job” when their kids get an A but hold off on the brand-new Lexus.
  • Real moms make their sixteen-year-olds set their own alarm clocks.
  • Real moms tell their kids to pay their own library fines.
  • Real moms ask Uncle Harry to put on the lampshade and do his juggling act on the kitchen table as the birthday party clown.
  • Real moms let their kids be bored.
  • Real moms say, “Not in our family” when their kids complain that “But everyone else does.”
  • Real moms say, “I’m not an ATM machine” and tell their kids to save money.
  • Real moms admit they’re wrong.
  • Real moms know they’re not perfect.
  • Real moms leave the dust when the playgroup comes over.
  • Real moms admit when they’re grouchy.
  • Real moms send their kid to canoe paddling camp when the other mothers enroll theirs in intensive Chinese language immersion.

Source : 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know. GETTING BACK TO BASICS AND RAISING HAPPY KIDS . Michele Borba, Ed.D. 2006