Sometimes it’s hard to deal with our children because we’re angry or tired or lonely. We don’t have any love to give our children. If that is true, we need to find ways to strengthen ourselves. We may need to have time with our friends or time for our hobbies. It’s hard to give love when we feel empty.
Take time to listen to children’s feelings. Understand. Remember that what the child is experiencing is very real to the child. Don’t try to discuss problems with the child when you are angry. Regularly ask the child about her experiences. “What was school like today?” “How did the test go?” “What was the happiest
thing that happened today?” Ask questions. Listen.
Remember that each person is different. You may have one child who cries over every experience. You may have another who keeps all feelings inside. Each child may need understanding in a different way. But each child needs understanding. Help the child understand other people’s feelings. “How do you
think Michelle felt about her dog being lost?” As you discuss feelings, try to understand what the other person feels. Once a child feels understood, she is more likely to accept correction. She is more likely to want to obey.
Source : Principles of Parenting. H Wallace Goddard.
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